The Other Horse

The horses have asked me to start writing about them and since my whole life has centered around them I agreed.

This week in the course of working with a long time client and her horse Mimi, a topic came up.  Often in a situation where there are two older horses, if one horse has to be put down the second horse is also put down.  The reasoning being that horses are a herd animal and being alone is a stressful situation for them.

Mimi has given me permission to tell her story of being the other horse.  Mimi and I have a long association.

Mimi and gelding David, both older horses, were  together for a long time.  In early May 2016 David was diagnosed with an anal tumor that was growing fast and would very soon block him from passing manure.  It was decided to put him down.  The vet’s assistant said that it was common to put the second down at the same time.  I worked with David to prepare him for leaving, he wanted more time and that was fine with his human.  As I worked with David, Mimi was given the opportunity to leave too.  She thought about it and decided she would stay knowing she would be alone.

Mimi’s human had me work with her in the weeks after David left and Mimi made the adjustment to being alone really well.  It did not take her long to realize she liked having all the attention.  It also gave her the opportunity to experience life a different way.  It allowed her to expand into herself and rely on herself.  That is a big step for a horse who is wired to be in a herd.  I am leaning life is about experiences and how we use those experiences.  We can grow, expand or not.  Animal or human.

Here she is in February 2018 still doing fine alone even though she has some health issues.

I shared Mimi’s story in an effort to show that it is possible for a horse to adjust to being alone.  Then it is up to each of you to make your own decisions.  No right or wrong.  Each situation is unique.  I am learning making blanket statements about any topic is not in the best interest.

Thanks Mimi it was great working with you again.

4 thoughts on “The Other Horse

  1. It is so clear to me that in your posts about the horses, you speak in a way that is much more close to how they speak. When you speak about the cats, you speak in a way that is much more close to how they speak. If we, as humans, listen to how you speak in relation to the animal you are working with, we can understand at a deeper level. Listening with more than our eyes and ears.
    Again, as always, Thank You Sandy!

  2. How wonderful it is when we give the animal a voice and an opportunity to make a choice. Thanks to you and Mimi for that lesson.

  3. Thank you, Sandy. Your insight has helped me to grow in understanding and living in harmony with my horses, mastiffs, kittens and cats. As my Mastiff, Jasmine, once told us, we humans have busy brains that get in the way with communicating. I’ve learned to be quiet, wait and listen putting my mind at rest. I have to smile when we talk….there are none around, but, as soon as I say hi Sandy, my mastiff and cats and kitten are around me.

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