In my last post I wrote about everything in our lives is an experience, humans and animals alike.
For me the question came up, if I am to honor my animal’s experience what do I have to do? What is the action or non-action? The answer is allow. I have to be willing to allow my animal to have their experience. What does that look like?
For the past two years I have been working with Rick and his old, not well, dog Merlin. It was a series of ups and downs and in the process Rick wanted very much to do what was best for Merlin. At times the question of euthanasia came up. Each time Merlin was very clear he wanted to be here and Rick got it. There was a lot of care and management involved and what I saw was allowing. Rick would stand back and allow Merlin to be with the condition of his body, allowing him to have the experience of the condition of his body. I was in awe of the amount of care Rick was willing to give for two years and the whole time staying in allowing and at times it was not pretty, yet Rick stuck with it.
For the past six months it was a slow steady spiral of Merlin moving in the direction of dying. Rick had some tough moments watching Merlin’s process and he was steadfast in allowing Merlin his experience. In allowing we stand back and do not let our emotions take hold. Allowing is a calm place, and not always comfortable.
A few days ago Rick called to check in with Merlin to make sure Merlin still wanted to leave in his own rhythm. The answer was yes. Although it was hard to watch, on one level, Rick said the feeling was very peaceful. Merlin was gone in 24 hours. This was Rick’s first experience of allowing an animal to leave on their own. He said it was an amazing experience and the time with Merlin was precious. No regrets. He said it expanded his view of life, giving him deeper awareness of life and how precious it is, and not to waste one second of it.
I am learning allowing is love, as I have to step outside of my emotions, it does not matter what I think or believe. It is about the other beings experience.
Thank you Rick and Merlin for letting me to be a part of your experience, an opportunity for me to learn more about allowing. My hat is off to you.