Allow

In my last post I wrote about everything in our lives is an experience, humans and animals alike.

For me the question came up, if I am to honor my animal’s experience what do I have to do?  What is the action or non-action?   The answer is allow.  I have to be willing to allow my animal to have their experience.   What does that look like?

For the past two years I have been working with Rick and his old, not well, dog Merlin.   It was a series of ups and downs and in the process Rick wanted very much to do what was best for Merlin.  At times the question of euthanasia came up.  Each time Merlin was very clear he wanted to be here and Rick got it.  There was a lot of care and management involved and what I saw was allowing.  Rick would stand back and allow Merlin to be with the condition of his body, allowing him to have the experience of the condition of his body.  I was in awe of the amount of care Rick was willing to give for two years and the whole time staying in allowing and at times it was not pretty, yet Rick stuck with it.

For the past six months it was a slow steady spiral of Merlin moving in the direction of dying.  Rick had some tough moments watching Merlin’s process and he was steadfast in allowing Merlin his experience.  In allowing we stand back and do not let our emotions take hold.  Allowing is a calm place, and not always comfortable.

A few days ago Rick called to check in with Merlin to make sure Merlin still wanted to leave in his own rhythm.  The answer was yes.  Although it was hard to watch, on one level, Rick said the feeling was very peaceful.  Merlin was gone in 24 hours.  This was Rick’s first experience of allowing an animal to leave on their own.  He said it was an amazing experience and the time with Merlin was precious.  No regrets.  He said it expanded his view of life, giving him deeper awareness of life and how precious it is, and not to waste one second of it.

I am learning allowing is love, as I have to step outside of my emotions, it does not matter what I think or believe.  It is about the other beings experience.

Thank you Rick and Merlin for letting me to be a part of your experience, an opportunity for me to learn more about allowing.  My hat is off to you.

Experience

Everything we do in a day is an experience.  Simple things like washing our face, drinking coffee, sitting down, getting up, all are experiences we don’t even notice.  When was the last time you really experienced getting up out of a chair?   Were you really present to all the actions  your body took  to allow you to get up out of the chair?    I can’t answer for you and for myself, nope, no awareness at all of taking that action with my body.  Totally automatic pilot.

We have hundreds/thousands of experiences everyday.   Why do I bring this up, what is the point?  Our animals.

As adult humans we are in charge of our experiences.  We are making choices all day as to what we are doing or experiencing.  Not so for animals.  Their lives are lived in a boundary that we create.  What they eat, when they go outside, where they sleep, etc., and there is nothing wrong with that.  If they are living with a human they chose that way of living or that way of experiencing life.  I want it very clear no one is a victim here.  Nothing happens to anyone without their permission on the higher level.

Everyday life works fine until we reach a day where the animal is old or the animal is very sick.  We are in a position to make choices and those choices will affect their experience.  With an old animal if we choose to put them down, so they don’t suffer old age, we have taken away their opportunity to experience old age fully.  With a very sick animal the same applies.  If we put them down we cut short their experience.

This is really tricky ground here.  We have our point of view and animals have their point of view of life and they are very different.  All the time when I am working with an animal and their human I see the differences in their points of view.  The human will be upset thinking their animal is suffering and the animal will be what is the big deal with the human?  I’m ok.

My point in bringing this topic up is; our experiences are how we grow, expand and evolve.  My most difficult  experiences were when I grew the most.  It took me outside of what I knew and showed me something more about myself.

There is no right or wrong here.  The animals nudged me to bring this up so their humans could step back and take a bigger look.  No quilt, finger pointing, simply take a look.  With what the animals have taught me I no longer see life so black and white.  Many shades of grey in between.  I am very grateful for that.