End of Life

I am being nudged to continue writing about animals and dying.  One of the things I see over and over when working with an animal who is in the dying rhythm movement is they are clear they want to die in their own rhythm.  Which means not to be euthanized.

I want to be clear here.  I am relaying what the animals show me and this is not me saying animals should not be euthanized.  I do not want to hear of anyone saying “Sandy says on her blog animals should not be euthanized”.  You want to see me really angry just let someone say that.  What I am doing is giving the animal’s point of view on dying.

They are teaching me their end of life is a very rich time for them to work on what they came to learn in this particular life time.

I am working with a cat now.  He can’t get up on his own anymore; he eats and drinks, purrs and is clear he is very alive.  A couple of weeks ago the question of euthanasia came up.  The human was torn so she called me.  In working with him he showed me the lesson he is working on is his will.  He has a very strong will.  All his life he has been able to will his way through challenges.

Now he is discovering his will is not working the way it did.  He is learning acceptance and surrender for what his will can’t change.  He is also seeing there is a bigger movement then his will is.  He had never seen this before.  The bigger movement is the Divine that moves through everything.

This is a huge discovery for him.  At the end of the session his human agreed to let him follow his own dying rhythm movement.  One of the things he wanted his human to know was, don’t get stuck in what it looks like and she listened.  She realized there is something big going on here and she wants to give him the chance to have his own movement and discovery.  She is willing to put herself aside so he can do what he needs to do.  To me this is a beautiful loving gift.

What I am passing on here is an example of what I am being shown by an animal moving toward the end of his life.   There is no blanket statement being made here.  I am simply sharing a story of a cat and his human and their journey together.

My work with dying animals is such an eye opener for me.  I am doing a lot of rethinking how I look at death.  Is it always comfortable?  No.  I am being taken out of my comfort zone and being asked to see someone else’s point of view on the end of life.

The phone just rang and it is this cat’s human, which blew me away as here I sit writing about them, reporting he is still here and she and he are having a very special time.  She wanted me to know how wonderful it is to be a part of his journey.

The animals are simply asking us to take a look at their point of view.

Life

I am a bit behind in posting.  Life had some interesting challenges, all resolved.  Lessons?  One lesson I got for sure is don’t forget for ten years to change the spark plugs in the car!  How I missed that one is a mystery as I am pretty car savvy.

A client read the post on “Letting Go” and asked if I could write something on animal’s dying.  It is a topic I knew I would write about and I wanted to get the blog somewhat established before I moved in that direction.  It is a big topic and a huge part of life.  We for the most part are not taught much about dying.  We know a great deal about birth, as it is considered a joyous event.  The end of life for the most part is not viewed that way.

My Dad believed death is part of life.  Death in our house was not a mystery it just was.  When animals or humans died I was shown there was nothing to fear.  I was allowed to see their bodies and told they couldn’t stay and that they went back to God.  Yes, I would miss them and that was ok.  As I look back I see I was being prepared for the job I do now even as a child.

I think I have mentioned that about half my work is with animals that are dying.  In a way they took over where my Dad left off in the teaching department.

Firstly, animals have no fear of dying and their point of view is very different from ours.  For animals life is rhythm and movement.  For them there is rhythm in the movement which they simply follow.  It is not a thought process for them, unlike us who think everything to ad nausea.

So death for animals is simply the dying rhythm movement.  In themselves they follow the inner rhythm of dying with no worry or judgment.  It just is.  I have worked with animals who could no longer get up and to them they still had a life.  From their point of view as long as they are breathing they have life.  No concept of quality of life, simply life.

I am going to stop here and I will write more.  Hopefully this opens the door a little into the animal’s view of dying.

Emotions and Finding Neutral

First, I want to thank people for their comments.  I appreciate them very much as they are encouragement for me to keep writing.  Thank you more than I can say.

My plan was to write about names and how important names are to animals.  I knew I had to turn the computer on to write Mondays post.  And there was no movement at all.  I sat and watched the snow fall, thankful for the moisture.  A surprise since yesterday was 65 degrees.

Then the phone rang and that call changed the direction, in an instant, what I was going to write about.  Hah on me if I think for a moment that I have control here.  Not really!

The call was from someone I have worked with and their animal is a goat named Sara.  The first time I opened up to Sara, she immediately got from me that goats are not animals I feel close to.  Sara was not sure she was going to work with me.  She thought I was a stupid human and I showed her sometimes I am.  We went back and forth but Sara really had things she wanted her human to know so she finally gave her permission to work.  Even though I was a stupid human for not understanding the smartness and wonderfulness of goats.

We had a great first session.  Sara was very clear what the bumpy areas were for her.  One of the important things was the dark clouds the human emitted and how difficult that was for Sara to deal with.

We have worked several times in the last year and each time the dark clouds came up.  Sara’s human really listened and was trying very hard to be aware of the emotional state when around Sara and when there was a problem with Sara’s health.

Sara was found shaking this morning, the vet was called, suggestions made, then I was called.   Sara showed me the air dropped and this caused the movement inside her to slow down and she got stiff so she was down.  Translated, we had a drastic barometric change so from her point of view the air dropped and the movement inside was her blood moving slower.  She was cold.

Her human did things to warm Sara up.  For the first time her human was allowed inside Sara’s small house without distressing her.  Sara showed me the human had no dark clouds which was calming.  Sara letting her human inside her house was an indicator for her human.  It was Sara’s way of showing the human something had changed in the human in a good way.  Her human finding the neutral place changed things dramatically.

I realized this was a powerful example of our emotions and their effect on our animals.  Here was a human who listened and made a huge effort to make a change in how they responded to a tough situation by remaining calm and how the animal responded to the lack of dark clouds or emotional upset.

My hat is off to this human and my heart was full as I worked with them yesterday.  It was a beautiful moment for me to witness this change and feel Sara’s and her humans calmness.